Which is worse? - UPDATED

Your body physically being a mess and making it extremely difficult to reproduce…

*OR*

Your doctor refusing to sign the paperwork for s.ocial s.ervices stating that you are physically capable of parenting a child.

I am at a complete loss.  I’m such a mess.  I have no idea why they won’t sign them.  I’m calling first thing in the morning.  What I am praying for is that they didn’t already submit the papers to ss, because it sounds like they sent them directly.  Great.  I feel so scared, no…more like terrified…that I will end up with no…no, simly can’t type this right now.  Must go find tissues…

UPDATE:

I finally got in touch with the nurse who is familiar with my request.  There reason for not signing the form…

Here is what the form states:

CAPACITY TO PARENT:  Based on your examination and knowledge of this person, do you believe the applicant has the physical, mental and emotional condition to take on the care and responsibility of a child?

Yes      or     No   Please Elaborate

He refused to check yes, because he said he is not sure that his answer is a yes.  Why?  Good question.  He said this because I am a newer patient of his.  He doesn’t have a long enough history with me to determine this.  Ummm….bullshit.  Seriously, he said it would be medically unethical.  (Ummm, this is me flipping him a very inappropriate gesture while sitting in front of my computer.)

Solution:  I told them I want my form back.  They had not submitted it yet.  They said they couldn’t give it to me.  I very calmly and sweetly (really, I was too nice) told them it is a part of my medical history, and I have every right to have it.  She finally agreed, and said I could come and pick it up.  I then called and left a message at my gyno’s office.  I also had the ridiculous doctor’s office fax them my labs.  So, the labs combined with the form, should allow my gyn to sign the form.  The ridiculous doctor will no longer be my doctor.  There’s no coming back from telling a woman that you are unsure of whether or not she has the “physical, mental, and emotional” ability to raise a child. 

Furthermore, I find it highly WRONG to leave that on a patient’s answering machine.  So, I’m staying positive that today we will kick some butt on our home study, and that the gyn will call and say no worries about signing the form.  I have no doubt that they gyn will sign the form.  If the world turns upside down and she won’t, then the RE is my next target.  I mean, he was trying to get me pregnant, and if he doesn’t think I’m fit , then what the heck was he doing trying to get me that way. 

 Ok, back to work…